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Do Women Cheat in Relationships More Than Men?

March 30, 2018

Who cheats more? Men or women? And why do partners sometimes feel the need to cheat? When it comes to infidelity, the reasons vary for men and women. In fact, gender often plays some role in what led to the indiscretion. For example, one reason men often stray is because they don’t feel respected by their partner.

Here’s what the experts have to say

You might be surprised to hear about how men and women differ when it comes to cheating.

In a conversation with The Cheat Sheet, Lesli Doares, couples consultant and author of Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage, told us cheating among women is often due to unmet emotional needs. “I’m not sure that women are more likely to cheat than men but the percentages are getting closer as women have been in the workplace in force. And the reasons they cheat are often the same,” Doares said. What are those reasons? Feeling underappreciated and failing to have their emotional needs met are common.
To learn more about infidelity among both men and women, The Cheat Sheet spoke some more with Doares as well as psychologist Dr. Jeanette Raymond. Their answers to our questions might surprise you.
The Cheat Sheet: Despite the common belief that men tend to be cheaters, is it a possibility that women are more likely to cheat than men?

Women might be catching up to men when it comes to cheating.

Dr. Jeanette Raymond: Absolutely. Women who have outgrown their dependency on their partners often cheat just for the exhilaration of being free and in control of their lives. They don’t want to rock the boat too much, nor do they want to feel trapped and forced to restrict themselves to a narrow lifestyle. Cheating is a great way of having that balance. [I know someone] who is married with young children who goes out dancing, picks up guys and cheats. She wants freedom because her husband is clingy and wants her to devote herself to him (which she did in the early days of their relationship). She wants to explore parts of herself that she suppressed earlier in order to get a guy.
CS: What are some reasons women cheat on their partner?

Some women want to inject a little more excitement into their lives.

JR: Some women who change and grow but want to maintain their relationship status choose to be self-indulgent and let loose. Some women cheat to get their partners jealous so that the relationship becomes exciting again if it was in the doldrums. Others cheat because their mothers did. Many women grow up in homes where their mothers have multiple partners, often simultaneously. It becomes a norm.
CS: How can a man make a woman partner feel more loved and accepted?

Let her fulfill that goal of hitting up every continent to make sure she knows she’s loved.

JR: Noticing, acknowledging, and facilitating their partner’s psychological, emotional, and social growth is the essence of the capacity to love. Encouraging your partner to be who she is, and to fulfill her personal goals as a woman are the best ways to honor and accept her.
CS: What advice do you have for a woman who is tempted to cheat?

Thinking of cheating? 

JR: She should take a look at what’s missing in her life and try to discuss it with her partner. Then she should consider what she’s aiming for by cheating. Is she wanting to feel power, feminine, control, have the thrill of a secret? If her partner is not up to talking and discussing her change and growth, it would be a good idea to think about going to therapy to explore her personal needs and her choices. Then she doesn’t have to use cheating to force the issue of needing to grow and develop.
CS: What lesson can a couple learn from cheating?

Bigger issues are often behind infidelity.

Lesli Doares: Cheating is often a symptom of the state of the relationship, not the cause of problems. But once it occurs, the infidelity overshadows those real problems and becomes the focus. While the original problems can often be effectively resolved, the violation of trust that occurs with infidelity makes that resolution much, much harder. Cheating is almost always discovered, despite the participants’ best efforts. It’s much healthier to deal with one relationship at a time. So, fix the one you’re in or end it because relationships that begin as affairs

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BBNaija 2018: I’ve fallen stupidly for Teddy A – Bambam

 

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BBNaija 2018: I’ve fallen stupidly for Teddy A – Bambam

March 30, 2018

Big Brother Naija 2018 housemate, Bambam has revealed she’s aware her romantic partner, Teddy A, has another woman outside the show.
Bambam said she was now helplessly in love with Teddy A, who had in more one occasion talked about his baby-mama.
Bambam, however, sees the other lady as Teddy A’s past while she dreams of occupying his present and future.
Confessing her love for Teddy to fellow housemate, Lolu, last night, Bambam, an upcoming actress, said, “I’m aware Teddy had a lady outside the house.

“But I have fallen ‘stupidly’ for him and believes that he feels the same way about me.”
Teddy A and Bambam have been in a relationship since the beginning of the show.

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Actress Juliana Olayode ‘Toyo baby’ loses Sister Read more:

Loosing a beloved one is a pain so great that it leaves a hole in your heart that can never be replace. This is the same pain that Nollywood actress, Juliana Olayode is currently going through. Julian who is popular for her character Toyosi on the sitcom, Jenifa's Diary, with heavy heart took to social media to share the sad news of her sister's demise. Although she didn't disclose what led to her death, from her post it clear that they were very close as she had nothing but good things to say about her. Sharing a photo with the deceased ON Instagram, she wrote: "I saw you breathe your last, yesterday. I didn’t let the doctor remove the oxygen tube from your nose. "She is not dead", I exclaimed.I prayed alone with you for five hours. I declared. I prophesied. I prayed in tongues. I prayed in understanding. I praised. I prayed on you. I prayed over you. I did all that came to mind. I refused to call anyone to let them know you’ve passed away because to me, you only slept you were cold but I still continued to pray. I called your name over and again and very unlike you, you didn’t respond...Your house is like a Day Care center. You took other people’s children into your arms. You just kept taking people in. Many times, I teased you, saying that you run a children's organization in your house and you just laughed about it.

You were interesting, you were kind, you were funny, you were fun, you were caring...And as I type, memories of how you took care of Samson and I keep flooding my head.You were a giver, you were hardworking, you were such a beautiful soul...I still can’t believe that you are sleeping...I think you slept too early big sis...In it all, GOD IS ALWAYS GOOD...I’ll see you again sis...I love you and I miss you so much already."

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Orezi Is Officially From Wakanda. WELDON SIR

orezi ijo wakanda.

Singer, Orezi is from not from Nigeria, he is from the fictional country of Wakanda from the movie 'Black Panther', and has released a song titled 'Ijo Wakanda'.

Orezi has dropped a new song titled ''Ijo Wakanda''.
The Dapiano produced track is obviously taken out of the 'Black Panther' movie, and suggests that he knows how to boogie like the people from Wakanda.
Hopefully, the song is not Orezi's lazy attempt to score a hit off the back of Black Panther's success, after the track ''Cooking Pot''.
“Black Panther” passed $430 million in its first two weeks and  has made more than $1 billion worldwide.  It is now the highest grossing superhero movie ever made.

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Facts About Your Breasts You Must Know

FACT #1: It is perfectly normal for your Tips to discharge either milk (when you are pregnant or nursing a baby) or a clear colourless liquid when fondled or manipulated especially during love making.
This therefore should not alarm you. However, you should talk to your doctor if milk is discharged when you are not pregnant or nursing a baby or have stopped nursing a baby by at least 2 weeks.
This is very important because of a condition called galactorrhoea that is often caused by a brain tumor, prolactinoma. Other causes of galactorrhoea abound but prolactinomas are our greatest cause of worry.
FACT #2: From the moment you start ovulating until the last day of your menstruation, it is very normal for your breasts to become engorged, heavy and even painful.
This is often due to that fact that once ovulation starts, the woman’s body starts preparing pregnancy in the event that a pregnancy occurs. So do not be alarmed. Don’t panic.
It is just normal physiology happening, it will resolve itself naturally or if the pain is too discomforting, popping two tablets of paracetamol helps provide relief.
FACT #3: It is absolutely NOT normal to find lumps/masses, of any kind, in your breast(s). The normal human breast is made of breast tissue which is primarily responsible for the shape and for milk production.
The breast tissue is uniform to touch. So it becomes abnormal when you palpate your breasts and find masses or lumps there. Although, most of the masses are benign, it is still an abnormal finding. Contact your doctor as soon as you discover lumps/masses in your breast(s).
Diseased right breast
FACT #4: The two breasts are slightly unequal in 9 out of every 10 women with the left breast often appearing larger than the right one.

This called breast asymmetry and it is a normal occurrence in most women. Usually, this difference in size is not noticed until the two breasts are closely observed.

NB: The breast asymmetry talked about is normal and not pathologic. However some women who have large lumps in one breast or have a breast cancer in one breast can present with noticeably asymmetric breasts. This should not be confused with the normal.
FACT #5: It is normal for the breasts to lose their shape and firmness and become floppy as you age, especially after menopause.
This is often due to the decrease in the reproductive hormone oestrogen after menopause.
Absence of this hormone makes th skin become dry and less elastic, hence the resulting sagging.

Most women who are able to afford Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) opt for it or go for plastic surgery, both of which significantly make them have fuller and firmer breasts than women who allow nature do its thing without interference.

FACT #6: The mere act of gently massaging the breast can help prevent breast cancer, according to a research conducted and published in 2013.
This is often referred to as Breast-Self Massage (BSM) and it works on the principle that massaging the breasts helps stimulate the growth of normal breast tissue growth, hence preventing the growth of cancerous cells.
So you may want spend a few more minutes in the bath massaging your breasts each you have a bath.
FACT #7: It is NOT normal for your breast(s) to discharge blood, pus or any other strangely coloured substance.

In fact, if your Tips are discharging anything other than breast milk or the traditional clear, colourless liquid, contact your doctor immediately! I repeat…immediately! This could be a sign of a malignancy.

Don’t wait until it is too late before you discuss your symptoms with your doctor.
Breast cancer is killing hundreds of thousands of women annually just because they were diagnosed late when it is virtually impossible to treat it. DON’T BE A VICTIM.

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Kwara Police Parade Ritualist With Human Heads

The Police Command in Kwara on Wednesday paraded a suspected ritualist they arrested with three human skulls in Ilorin

Suleiman Adenifuja was caught with three human skulls along Ogbomosho-Eiyekorin Area, Ilorin, on March 26.
When the suspect was interrogated he claimed that he brought the skulls from Lagos to Ilorin for ritual purpose.
Who is responsible for the death of those humans? Were the skulls dug out from a grave?
These and many more are questions that must be answered as the police investigate the matter.
Meanwhile, the Police Command in Kwara on Wednesday paraded the suspected ritualist with the three human skulls in Ilorin.
The Commissioner of Police in the state, Lawan Ado, said more information would be provided as they proceed on the case.
He seized the opportunity to also advise people who had not surrendered the illegal and prohibited firearms to do so, saying that anybody arrested would be prosecuted.

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The truth that BILL GATES SAY TO BUHARI 

So, one of the world’s richest men, billionaire Microsoft founder, Bill Gates visited Nigeria recently.

He had the opportunity of speaking to Nigerian leaders, including President Buhari face to face.

Perhaps you have seen the photos and a few lines from his speech.

Here are 7 of the hard truths that Bill shared with the nations leaders:

1. Don’t Over-Celebrate Exit from Recession

It is true that Nigeria has exited an economic recession that hit it for the first time in 25 years.

But Gates reminded Buhari not to take the growth so seriously.

Also Read: 7 Sub-Saharan African Countries With The Highest Foreign Debt

“You are rapidly approaching upper middle-income status, like Brazil, China, and Mexico. But growth is not inevitable.

“Nigeria has unmatched economic potential, but what becomes of that potential depends on the choices you make as Nigeria’s leaders.”

2. You’re Wasting Time If You Don’t Invest In People

“The most important choice you can make is to maximise your greatest resource, the Nigerian people. Nigeria will thrive when every Nigerian is able to thrive,” Gates said.

He told the National Economic Council, “If you invest in their health, education, and opportunities—the “human capital” we are talking about today—then they will lay the foundation for sustained prosperity.

“If you don’t, however, then it is very important to recognise that there will be a sharp limit on how much the country can grow.”

3. Nigeria Is Not Even In The List of Low-Income Countries

Apparently, Gates had data in his presentation which showed quality of life in some countries.

So, looking at the data, he told the politicians, “You see this risk in the data. From the point of view of the quality of life, much of Nigeria still looks like a low-income country.

Also Read: Under Buhari, Nigeria's Total Debt Rose To N21.7 Trillion

“Let me give a few examples. In upper middle-income countries, the average life expectancy is 75 years. In lower middle-income countries, it’s 68. In low income countries, it’s 62.

“In Nigeria, it is lower still: just 53 years.”

4. Nigeria Is One Of The Most Dangerous Place On Earth To Give Birth

“Nigeria is one of the most dangerous places in the world to give birth, with the fourth worst maternal mortality rate in the world, ahead of only Sierra Leone, Central African Republic, and Chad.

“One in three Nigerian children is chronically malnourished,” he said.

5. Bridges, Roads and Railways Won’t Develop Nigeria

Gates faulted the implementation of Buhari’s much touted Economic Recovery and Growth Plan, saying it is focusing too much on physical infrastructure, at the expense of vital human capital.

He said: “The Nigerian government’s Economic Recovery and Growth Plan identifies “investing in our people” as one of three “strategic objectives.” But the “execution priorities” don’t fully reflect people’s needs, prioritising physical capital over human capital.

“To anchor the economy over the long term, investments in infrastructure and competitiveness must go hand in hand with investments in people.”

He noted: “People without roads, ports, and factories can’t flourish. And roads, ports, and factories without skilled workers to build and manage them can’t sustain an economy.”

6. Nigeria Is Investing In Enduring Poverty

Gates reminded the politicians that that their current investments and policy decisions won’t Nigeria out of poverty but rather entrench it.

“If current education and health trends continue—if you spend the same amount in these areas and get the same results—per capita GDP flatlines, with economic growth just barely keeping up with population growth,” he stated.

“If things get worse, it will decline. Unfortunately, this scenario is a very real possibility unless you intervene at both the federal and state levels.

“Because even in the worst-case scenario, your national income level is about to make you ineligible for certain kinds of development assistance and loans that you’ve been relying on to fund your health system and other priorities.

“Without more and better spent domestic money, investment in your people will decline by default as donor money shrinks—a lose-lose scenario for everyonem,” he explained.

Read More: 4 Unlikely Jobs That Can Fetch You Millions Of Naira

He emphasizes that Nigerian must invest in the people by prioritising health and education.

7. More Than Half Of Rural Nigerian Children Are Illiterate

This confirms what you already know. And Gates said “the conclusion is inescapable” as Nigeria’s economy tomorrow depends on improving its schools today.

“The same is true of health, our foundation’s primary focus area,” he added.

8. Nigeria’s Primary Health Care System Is Completely Broken

Gates narrates how, in 1978, Dr. Olikoye Ransome-Kuti, who later became the Nigerian minister of health, helped establish primary health care as the global standard.

“We now know that a strong primary care system takes care of 90% of people’s health needs.

“Tragically, 40 years after Dr. Ransome-Kuti helped other countries set a course for the future, the Nigerian primary health care system is broken.”

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BBNaija 2018 Season 3: Bambam Goes into Tears in her Diary Session with Big Brother [VIDEO]

BBNaija 2018 housemate, Bambam last night could not control her emotions during her diary session as she went into tears and disclosed that she was fed up with everyone calling her fake.
She earlier complained of being hated by other housemates and talked about a lot in the house.

“I am a private person, Big brother, I’m so tired of housemates calling me fake.
“I really can’t stand these people anymore, the only person that keeps me together is Teddy A.
“I feel upset, irritated, overwhelmed. It is getting harder to be strong. It is getting harder to stay focused. Maybe I am not that strong, after all.
“Biggie, I am so tired. I am genuinely overwhelmed. It is getting harder to be strong,” she said.

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Nollywood Actress Tonto Dikeh Slam People That Criticize Her se.xy New Photo

Tonto Dikeh shared a new photo on Instagram that exposed her cleavage, but it seems that for some people her dress didn’t go down well with them.

See their comments below:


She fired back after fans and followers slammed her for wearing an outfit that exposed her cleavage.
See below:

 

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#BBNaija Season 3: Teddy A’s Baby Mama Praises him

March 27, 2018

BBNaija housemate, The baby mama of Teddy A, Layla Amani, has been there for him since he entered the house in spite his on-screen relationship with another housemate BamBam has gone to her social media to praise Teddy A.
Layla Amani revealed that Teddy is such a good man, father and also her partner in crime.

The Dallas based Mauritanian beauty shared lovely photos of him with their son and wrote;
“I dedicate this post to the father of my son @iamteddya my friend my partner in crime, he’s an incredible man. A beautiful man, in mind and body, creative, talented, loving, intelligent, strong, focused, pensive, passionate, thoughtful, disciplined, calm man. He is a wonderful father who cares deeply about his fathering. He knows how important he is to his son, and the influence he has and will have on his life, and he reflects that in their relationship and their interaction.The first time he saw Jaiden he couldn’t help himself, he was holding him all night, I have to tell him Omo don’t spoil my pikin oo lol, he’s one in a billion and I also thank all he’s fans y’all awesome #teamteddya #bbnaija #doublewahala #oluwaisinvolved #daddyoflife #wishnothingbutthebestforyou”

Teddy A has a lovely son and a very adorable baby mama. The 29-year-old handsome musical artiste is a graduate of the University of Texas. During an interview, Teddy A said he enjoys spending quality time with his son, and his high points in life were when his son came into this world and getting a recording deal.

Teddy A’s baby mama, Layla Amani, also shared adorable photos of their son rocking his campaign t-shirts.
The Dallas based Mauritanian beauty shared the photos and wrote;
“Teddy A Jr #TeamTeddyA #bbnaija”

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A Woman Delivers a baby with a Qur’an & Muslim prayer bead in his hand

March 27, 2018

A woman in Burga, Bauchi State, has been the major topic in her area after she delivered a baby with a Qur’an and Muslim prayer bead in his hand.
According to reports, when the woman came to the Islamic leader in Burga, Sheikh Dahiru Usman Bauchi, she claimed that this boy who is named Muhammad Auwal was born with those items in his hand as she swore that she wasn’t lying.

 

According to reports, Sheik Dahiru Bauchi said: “This is nothing in the sight of Allah for the ungrateful disbelievers of the Prophet (SAW) to further show them that the Messenger of Allah is true.

“He further showed the world the miracle of the Prophet, which caused the child to be born, the Qur’an and the prayer bead.”

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See The Man Who Married His Sister Undergo Spiritual Cleansing With 7 Virgins (Photos)

Chiadikobi Ezeibekwe, a mathematics teacher at a secondary school in Ekwulobia, Aguata Local Government Area of Anambra State, shock his community and the country at large after marrying his 17-year-old biological sister, Chibuzor Ezeibekwe.
The marriage was said to have been heavily criticized by the villagers and also the traditional rulers.
Due to that effect, the 25-year-old man underwent spiritual cleansing weeks after he renounced the controversial marriage.
The event was held on Saturday, March 24th, as the entire family of Lewis Ezeibekwe, underwent a spiritual cleansing conducted by the Parish Priest of St. Joseph’s Catholic Church, Ekwulobia, Rev. Fr. Ignatius Onwuatuegwu.
According to reports, Chiadikobi Ezeibekwe had claimed he married his sister because it was a clear instruction from God.
“We didn’t just jump into this marriage thing because we can do it, God showed it to me and not only me, it was shown to other people in this family. God asked me to marry my sister yes, and I didn’t propose to my sister.
Sometimes you may have vision, you just keep it, and in the process she got the same vision and spoke out because if she had not had the vision, I would not have been able to speak about it.
“I have tried to feel ashamed, guilty or sober since this thing happened, but no way. I feel fine and at home. I have asked God to make me feel bad and guilty if I have done evil, but I am not feeling any of such,” he had earlier said.
During the cleansing, eight members of the Ezeibekwe family knelt down before the traditional ruler, traditional prime minister and elders of the community and apologised to the entire Agba Ekwulobia community.
Chiadikaobi also asked for forgiveness from the community for marrying his sister.
After the cleansing rites, seven girls said to be virgins, clad in white dresses, used seven palm frond branches to sweep the Ezeibekwe compound.

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Breaking: Police Declare Senator Dino Melaye Wanted 

The Kogi State Police Command has declared the senator representing Kogi West, Senator Dino Melaye,  wanted.
Commissioner of Police in the state, Mr Ali Janga, made the announcement in a statement personally signed by him on Wednesday in Lokoja, the state capital
According to him, others declared wanted are one Mohammed Audi and six suspects who escaped from police custody in the state capital.
The fleeing suspects are Kabiru Seidu (nicknamed Osama), Nuhu Salisu (nicknamed Small), Aliyu Isa, Adams Suleiman, Emmanuel Audu and Musa Mohammed.
Also Read: ‘How I Escaped From SARS Operatives Who Attempt To Arrest Me In Court,’ – Dino Melaye
“Four of the suspects were on court remand, including two that indicted Senator Dino Melaye and Mohammed Audi.
“Consequently, all the six suspects, Senator Dino Melaye and Mohammed Audu were sent for watchlisting and red notice by the INTERPOL for immediate arrest anywhere we see them,” Janga said in the statement.
He further appealed to the members of the public to assist the police with useful information on the whereabouts of the suspects by reporting to the nearest police station.
The police commissioner noted that Investigation into the jailbreak is ongoing while the 13 police officers who were on duty when the incident occurred have been detained for interrogation.
He urged members of the public to go about their lawful duty, adding that the command is committed to ensuring adequate security of lives and property in the state.
The Force Public Relations Officer, Jimoh Moshood, had paraded the two suspects on March 19 who said they were part of an armed gang terrorising residents of the state.
Moshood had revealed that the suspects were arrested with a cache of arms which they claimed had been supplied to them by Senator Melaye.
The lawmaker has since denied the allegations, saying it was “a gang up to silence me.”